January 2011
60 posts
On prime break-up season.
I want to break up with my boyfriend but we’ve already bought tickets to Coachella & reserved a place to stay. Also, Valentine’s Day is coming up. Should I do it now or wait later? I just don’t like wasting money and breaking up before a holiday is just mean.
You know what’s really mean? Pretending you still want to be with someone for a Coachella ticket. End it now....
On elaborating.
“the ignorant fucks who think we were put on the planet to rule over the animals”- Do you think you could elaborate on which sort of person you’re referring to? I never pictured you as a PETA type or anything.
Fuck PETA. They’re just the NRA for puppies. I’m referring to people who take the Book of Genesis literally.
It takes a special kind of asshole to think that...
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On our extinction.
Do you look forward to the extinction of humankind? I sure do, I feel like the most beautiful thing that humans could achieve would be to finally die off and let the good earth try to heal itself. When I say this to close family members they never agree and sometimes are angry at me, calling me morbid. There isn’t anything more morbid than our species smothering and poisoning every other one...
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On wasting time.
What do you MEAN there’s no such thing as wasting time? What if I dick around on the internet when I have reading to do or papers to write…isn’t that wasting time?
No. Procrastination isn’t wasting time. It’s merely a reflection of your inability to prioritize according to a given value system.
Not that time really exists to be wasted in the first place, but if we...
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On fun sized advice.
How much do you buy into the Western ideal of beauty? I mean, you do live in LA. I don’t buy into it. I fucking sell it.
i had an audition today and i think i failed, how do i deal with nerves or rejection. You’re fucked if you think blowing an audition is the same thing as failure. Not showing up is the only way you can fail.
Why don’t my nipples get perky anymore when...
On corinthians 13:11.
I’m a big fan, etc. etc., and I, like you, am in informed atheist who chooses to pick and choose my battles with people of religious persuasion… including my family. However, recently, something has been bothering me. My family takes my little sisters to church every sunday (aged 13 and 8, the younger being 13 years younger than me) and this weekend the youngest asked my why I never go...
On your weight.
Are you judgmental of overweight women? Do you think heavier girls can be just as sexy and desirable as our skinny counterparts?
Overweight. Underweight. The terms are judgmental in and of themselves. They imply a standard. That’s fine if the standard is based on health and well being, but it’s not okay if the standard is based on an idealized notion of aesthetic perfection.
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On water cooler jesus.
I moved to the south a few months ago and recently got a job with a very small company. There are six employees total. Our weekly meetings begin with prayer, and I’m not sure how to tell my boss that I’m uncomfortable with this—or if I should tell him. It’s one thing to suck it up and join hands with my big Catholic family as my uncle leads us in a round of “Bless...
On a girl with real problems.
I’ve had a really unstable and dramatic life. Raped twice, molested by several family friends, beat by my parents and ex boyfriends, and much much more. I also am extremely bi polar (I’ve been diagnosed several different times by different psychiatrists since I was 6 years old). I’ve tried to get over my issues and just live life, be happy, and leave the bullshit behind. But I...
On an easy choice.
Paris Fashion Week or Sundance? OMG WHICH ONE???
Park City or Paris? Are you fucking kidding me?
Sundance is okay if you’re in the mood to fuck a Mormon in the snow after day of shitty movies, but that doesn’t hold a candle to fucking a Frenchman in the City of Light after a day of runway shows.
Go to Paris.
But I’ve been to Paris loads of times and my movie is playing at...
On grocery store lube.
For many months I have had trouble getting wet with my sexy and all around 5 star boyfriend. Once we tried some KY lube and it severely burned me and my partner’s genitals. What the fuck? It was bullshit! I think lube would help us a lot but I haven’t been inspired to shop around for any since that incident. Why did that happen, and what product can I trust?
You probably used KY...
On the drunk girl.
So here’s the deal coketalk. I’ve slept with two guys in the same flat in the course of a few months. They were both just casual sex and its not awkward at all between anyone. We’re in dorms and so I see these guys pretty often at predrinks and such. The thing is, one of the girls attending these predrinks gets to be quite a loud-mouth when she’s drunk and always says...
On emotional baggage.
This is me, being vulnerable. I’ve been dating this guys for around 6 months now—never been closer to someone faster, never fallen so effortlessly into a relationship. He’s great, if a little needy at times.
So here’s the thing. During a very long, relationship-y talk, he let it slip/hinted that he was sexually abused as a child. Awful and incomprehensible. And I...
On where to stay.
LA Hotels: Where would Coketalk recommend that a young couple that likes to party and is looking for a little trouble stay during a weekend in LA? Looking for something nice and a little permissive, but not too sketch, we’re thinking a couple of late-nights, not all-nighters. Cost isn’t really an issue, I’ve learned nice hotels are usually worth the money if you are short on time...
On where to stay.
LA Hotels: Where would Coketalk recommend that a young couple that likes to party and is looking for a little trouble stay during a weekend in LA? Looking for something nice and a little permissive, but not too sketch, we’re thinking a couple of late-nights, not all-nighters. Cost isn’t really an issue, I’ve learned nice hotels are usually worth the money if you are short on time...
On hardening up.
My father hired a private investigator in order to prevent me from being with the man with whom I am in love because our relationship violates social norms. I’m not a minor, but I am financially dependent on my father. I don’t want to comply but he is paying for my tuition and literally everything else in my life. I don’t know how I could survive without his income, but I know there are ways and I...
On hardening up.
My father hired a private investigator in order to prevent me from being with the man with whom I am in love because our relationship violates social norms. I’m not a minor, but I am financially dependent on my father. I don’t want to comply but he is paying for my tuition and literally everything else in my life. I don’t know how I could survive without his income, but I know there are ways and I...
On conspiracy theories.
I don’t get how someone as smart as you fell in the Assange/wikileaks trap. He’s obviously made up. You think there is someone so powerful as to manage to put secret documents online and governments can’t find a way to shut it down?
There is too much fuss about it. He’s too charismatic. And I didn’t need wikileaks to know the kind of stuff that they revealed. They...
On conspiracy theories.
I don’t get how someone as smart as you fell in the Assange/wikileaks trap. He’s obviously made up. You think there is someone so powerful as to manage to put secret documents online and governments can’t find a way to shut it down?
There is too much fuss about it. He’s too charismatic. And I didn’t need wikileaks to know the kind of stuff that they revealed. They...
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On fun sized advice.
Are you dead? No, I’ve had the flu. Back up off my shit.
Are you racist? No, some of my best friends are white.
Are you Mod from The Big Lebowski? It’s Maude, you idiot.
Ryan Gosling or Ryan Reynolds? Ryan Reynolds. I prefer funny over brooding. Plus, he’s rebounding off an A-lister. Dudes put off a lot of extra heat when coming out of that kind of orbit.
My boyfriend thinks...
On fun sized advice.
Are you dead? No, I’ve had the flu. Back up off my shit.
Are you racist? No, some of my best friends are white.
Are you Mod from The Big Lebowski? It’s Maude, you idiot.
Ryan Gosling or Ryan Reynolds? Ryan Reynolds. I prefer funny over brooding. Plus, he’s rebounding off an A-lister. Dudes put off a lot of extra heat when coming out of that kind of orbit.
My boyfriend thinks...
On comments.
Girl, you opened comments! That is wonderful :)
Yes! It’s probably something I should have done a long time ago, but after the site got a makeover last month, I finally figured out Disqus, and I’m really looking forward to reading what everybody has to say.
Fair warning, I will be moderating comments.
Feel free to talk all the shit you want, but to make sure things stay copacetic,...
On comments.
Girl, you opened comments! That is wonderful :)
Yes! It’s probably something I should have done a long time ago, but after the site got a makeover last month, I finally figured out Disqus, and I’m really looking forward to reading what everybody has to say.
Fair warning, I will be moderating comments.
Feel free to talk all the shit you want, but to make sure things stay copacetic,...
On sowing wild oats together.
My boyfriend and I have been together since we were teenagers. We were each other’s first everything, etc, etc. Recently, he expressed some regret that he’d never had the opportunity to experiment with different people. I told him that I would be perfectly comfortable with him going out and fucking some hot people as long as he came home and told me about it while he fucked me. Am I...
On fake tits.
I was pretty surprised to read (on coketalk) that you’re such a fan of fake breasts. Do you have fake tits too? Don’t you think it’s a bit…tacky? Trashy? For someone who seems to advocate being as real as possible with people, what is the appeal of bolted on plastic boobs? I just don’t see the point. They feel awful (I’ve groped a few myself), and to me it just...
On fake tits.
I was pretty surprised to read (on coketalk) that you’re such a fan of fake breasts. Do you have fake tits too? Don’t you think it’s a bit…tacky? Trashy? For someone who seems to advocate being as real as possible with people, what is the appeal of bolted on plastic boobs? I just don’t see the point. They feel awful (I’ve groped a few myself), and to me it just...
On royally fucking up.
As a result of heavy drinking, my partner, best friend, and I ended up having a threesome. The three of us had joked about having one a few months past, but nothing came out of it. Given the heavy drinking involved, a lot of things got blurred.
To get to the point: A week later, I found out my best friend feels that they were violated by my partner during the act. I’m not looking for a...
On chinese mothers.
I recently read the article Why Chinese Mothers Are Superior.
I am Asian American. I attest that this is parenting method is a crapshoot as much as any other style of parenting, though I suppose me simply saying that proves very little.
I see value in whatever she is trying to teach her children.
There’s something funky with the assumptions and implications of her argument, though. I...
On chinese mothers.
I recently read the article Why Chinese Mothers Are Superior.
I am Asian American. I attest that this is parenting method is a crapshoot as much as any other style of parenting, though I suppose me simply saying that proves very little.
I see value in whatever she is trying to teach her children.
There’s something funky with the assumptions and implications of her argument, though. I...
On royally fucking up.
As a result of heavy drinking, my partner, best friend, and I ended up having a threesome. The three of us had joked about having one a few months past, but nothing came out of it. Given the heavy drinking involved, a lot of things got blurred.
To get to the point: A week later, I found out my best friend feels that they were violated by my partner during the act. I’m not looking for a...
On the size zero pill.
Do you have any thoughts on Mr. Kenneth Tong, his size zero pill, or his “managed anorexia” theory? It seems like he’s trying to make money/build his ‘brand’ on maxims that have been around as long as insecurity has, but he’s gaining friends and followers everyday.
Kenneth Tong is just Tom Vu 2.0, and the size zero pill doesn’t even exist. Not really....
On the size zero pill.
Do you have any thoughts on Mr. Kenneth Tong, his size zero pill, or his “managed anorexia” theory? It seems like he’s trying to make money/build his ‘brand’ on maxims that have been around as long as insecurity has, but he’s gaining friends and followers everyday.
Kenneth Tong is just Tom Vu 2.0, and the size zero pill doesn’t even exist. Not really....
On sowing wild oats together.
My boyfriend and I have been together since we were teenagers. We were each other’s first everything, etc, etc. Recently, he expressed some regret that he’d never had the opportunity to experiment with different people. I told him that I would be perfectly comfortable with him going out and fucking some hot people as long as he came home and told me about it while he fucked me. Am I...
On fair warning.
I’m horny and I want to have sex. I’m aware that I could easily have sex with other people but honestly, the only person I want to have sex with is my ex-boyfriend. Do you think it would be unhealthy if we had sex again? We ended on good terms but I really miss him. It’s kinda like, my heart says no but my crotch says yes, kind of thing. What do you think?
Do what you gotta...
On fair warning.
I’m horny and I want to have sex. I’m aware that I could easily have sex with other people but honestly, the only person I want to have sex with is my ex-boyfriend. Do you think it would be unhealthy if we had sex again? We ended on good terms but I really miss him. It’s kinda like, my heart says no but my crotch says yes, kind of thing. What do you think?
Do what you gotta...
On missing the point.
You got this question: “Do you think that teenagers fall in love or they just believe they do?” And you answered with a simple “Yes.”
I want to know, is it a yes that teens actually fall in love or is it a yes that they THINK they fall in love.
No.
On missing the point.
You got this question: “Do you think that teenagers fall in love or they just believe they do?” And you answered with a simple “Yes.”
I want to know, is it a yes that teens actually fall in love or is it a yes that they THINK they fall in love.
No.
On fresh meat.
I usually make it a rule for myself to never intervene in people’s shit and yours and I almost always respectfully agrees with the advice you give out but who are you to call this guy’s girlfriend’s belief insanity? What happened to your clean cut advice routine?
Clean cut advice? Are you kidding? Oh, wait. I get it.
On fresh meat.
I usually make it a rule for myself to never intervene in people’s shit and yours and I almost always respectfully agrees with the advice you give out but who are you to call this guy’s girlfriend’s belief insanity? What happened to your clean cut advice routine?
Clean cut advice? Are you kidding? Oh, wait. I get it.
On the shit people put up with.
You’ll probably tear me apart for this but I love a christian girl. She’s so damn mature and has none of that normal drama all the young girls around me have. I don’t mind not having sex, I mean I really fucking want to have sex with her but it’s fine just hanging around, messing around but not there yet.
What bothers me are kinda people like you. Don’t get me...
On the shit people put up with.
You’ll probably tear me apart for this but I love a christian girl. She’s so damn mature and has none of that normal drama all the young girls around me have. I don’t mind not having sex, I mean I really fucking want to have sex with her but it’s fine just hanging around, messing around but not there yet.
What bothers me are kinda people like you. Don’t get me...
On fucking around.
I have no problem in admitting when it comes to men, looks tend to come first. For a while that look has been the grungy hipster one. Now I’m an 18 year old, Urban Outfitter-working, indie show-attending, attractive girl from San Francisco who’s moving out to LA next month. I’ve never had problems with finding an assortment of the type in NorCal, but to be honest I really ...
On fucking around.
I have no problem in admitting when it comes to men, looks tend to come first. For a while that look has been the grungy hipster one. Now I’m an 18 year old, Urban Outfitter-working, indie show-attending, attractive girl from San Francisco who’s moving out to LA next month. I’ve never had problems with finding an assortment of the type in NorCal, but to be honest I really ...
On the brutal fucking truth.
I’m a black girl who has gone to predominately white private schools for my entire life. (According to my friends at least) I’m pretty, I’m one of the smartest girls in my class and I’m funny. I don’t understand why any white guys don’t seem to give me the time of day. I hate to think it’s because of my race, but it’s all I can come up with. Others...
On the brutal fucking truth.
I’m a black girl who has gone to predominately white private schools for my entire life. (According to my friends at least) I’m pretty, I’m one of the smartest girls in my class and I’m funny. I don’t understand why any white guys don’t seem to give me the time of day. I hate to think it’s because of my race, but it’s all I can come up with. Others...
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On that not so fresh feeling.
I miss myself some fucking butterflies. If things are stale should I just move on?
Butterflies are a drug. Stale is a judgment. This question is the romantic equivalent of wanting to get high because you’re bored.
If you think the relationship is stale because the butterflies are gone, that’s an indication of your emotional immaturity. People who aren’t willing to put work into...
On that not so fresh feeling.
I miss myself some fucking butterflies. If things are stale should I just move on?
Butterflies are a drug. Stale is a judgment. This question is the romantic equivalent of wanting to get high because you’re bored.
If you think the relationship is stale because the butterflies are gone, that’s an indication of your emotional immaturity. People who aren’t willing to put work into...
On making it work.
The girl: funny, brilliant, snarky, gorgeous, possibly asexual. The other girl (me): high sex drive. The deal: We spend an absurd amount of time together, we never run out of things to say to one another, she makes me giggle like a fucking teenager when I think about her. I haven’t been in anything this functional for a long time.
We’re not anything official, which is just how I like...
On making it work.
The girl: funny, brilliant, snarky, gorgeous, possibly asexual. The other girl (me): high sex drive. The deal: We spend an absurd amount of time together, we never run out of things to say to one another, she makes me giggle like a fucking teenager when I think about her. I haven’t been in anything this functional for a long time.
We’re not anything official, which is just how I like...
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On more fun sized advice.
What the hell do you do to be able to wear a five-thousand dollar watch? Scrimp and save and never pay retail.
Do I message a guy I found on OK Cupid when I joined just for laughs? Sure. Then date, fall in love, and get married. You know, just for laughs.
Who’s more your cup o’ tea: Conan or Colbert? Colbert. I’ll take satire over farce any day of the week.
What do you think...