December 2011
15 posts
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On forgiving and forgiveness.
Dear Coquette,
My dad had an affair with my mom’s (now ex) best friend, a woman who I grew up with as my “auntie.” It’s been about four years now and they are still together. She and I just cannot get along. We can be civil, but it’s really uncomfortable. I moved out of my dad’s at 17 because of it, and while I know it was the right decision for me, I barely have a relationship with him anymore....
November 2011
12 posts
On experimenting.
My boyfriend and I had this idea: he has Coke in his mouth and I have Mentos and then we make out. How bad of an idea is this? For anything interesting to happen, it would have to be Diet Coke, and you two would have to kiss like those creepy couples from the Virgin Diaries on TLC.
On making it.
Tomorrow I am going to represent my first client (I just became an attorney) at a pre-trial. I. Am. Terrified. I graduated top of my class, studied hard, did internships, learned from the best attorneys around, “shadowed” attorneys and judges. I know what to say. I know what to do. But, it still feels like opening night of the high school play… I hope I don’t forget my...
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On more fun-sized advice.
Dear Coquette,
I just turned 18 and I seem to be uncertain about everything in my life. Is that normal? Yep. Get used to it. Better yet, get comfortable with it. It’ll make you less susceptible to advertising.
Where is the line between having style and being obsessed with physical appearance? Vanity.
Outside of getting a therapist and/or a puppy, is there any basic advice you can suggest for...
On sex and anthropology.
It’s really interesting to me. I just learned a lot about evolution and how it affects sex appeal today. I learned it’s actually how women evolved to want to be in a monogamous relationship, or have some sort of stability. When humans first evolved to walking on two legs, there was no place for the baby to rest on their backs, so women had to carry their babies. Because of this, they...
On only you.
Fuck that. I want one man to love only me. That’s how you get appreciated properly.
Whatever, bitch. Sex isn’t the same thing as love, and getting appreciated isn’t the same thing as being respected.
It’s fine if you want to be monogamous, but my way of thinking wouldn’t scare the shit out of you if you understood the difference.
Call me ignorant all you want, but...
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On opening your relationship.
Dear Coquette,
I have struck gold. I found the most amazing man. I cannot even begin to describe to you all of the ways that he astounds and inspires me. We are deeply in love and have been together for some time. Lately I have been struggling with a conflict in some part of myself. It started when his ex-girlfriend moved back into town, or rather, I became more acutely aware of my personal...
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On forgiveness.
Dear Coquette,
I’m 27 and have been estranged from my father for nearly a decade. When he left us, he took off with the woman he was cheating on my mother with.
Life with him before he left us was hell. He was, and presumably still is, an abusive alcoholic. I vividly remember him picking me up by the back of my shirt when I was about 7 and throwing me down the hall. He would mercilessly beat the...
On tomorrow.
Your best friend got married before you. Drinkin hateraid or Sunny D?
Before me? It’s not a race, bitch. That shit ain’t a finish line. Tomorrow is just another party with an open bar. My girl has been lucky in love for three years now, and I’m so fucking happy for her.
I’m so blissed out right now.
Gotta go party.
Love you all.
On vacation.
where did you go? you never write on here anymore! i know you wont reply but just thought you should know we miss your bitch ass. I’m in Cabo for another week doing the maid-of-honor thing at my best friend’s wedding. I’m crazy busy, plus the internet here is worse than my Spanish, so I won’t be posting much until I get back.
On a very sad person.
My mother was physically and emotionally abusive to my siblings when we were growing up. We’re all adults now but the emotional abuse continues. I haven’t seen her in five years but we still speak on the phone and at this point I realize that I’m only keeping any sort of contact out of some misplaced sense of obligation or some fear - I’m not really sure, because she almost...
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On fun sized advice.
Dear Coquette,
Does size really matter? Yes
What is the difference between a “slow burn” relationship and a lukewarm one? Fire.
Do we still live in a postmodern world? I prefer Bret Easton Ellis’s notion of post-empire.
Would you allow yourself to be described as a socialite? No, I work for a living. To be called a socialite implies otherwise.
What are your opinions on being...