How do you be a female player while maintaining your integrity and not becoming a “ho”? I’m a single young female with a great job, I’m disgusted by my boring friends who give up their own lives to be with their lame boyfriends, and I want to prove that there’s an alternative. If you could give specifics that would be most helpful.

You don’t need me to tell you how to maintain your integrity. You have a conscience for that. Listen to it.

Have standards. Have your own moral code. Be true to it, and you’ll be fine.

Also, don’t have anything to prove. Your lifestyle isn’t an alternative to anyone else’s. It’s what works for you. If you don’t want friends to judge your promiscuity, then don’t judge their boring lives with lame boyfriends.

Live and let live. Fuck and let fuck.